tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27429478.post6815742898460414900..comments2024-03-27T06:09:04.368-04:00Comments on Blogging, Near Philadelphia: KindnessNancy Near Philadelphiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08803134620826322075noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27429478.post-60606779329408010652009-01-06T08:23:00.000-05:002009-01-06T08:23:00.000-05:00I've walked on your shoes, my friend. This situati...I've walked on your shoes, my friend. This situation of yours, in fact, has dredged up some memories of a situation that I'd just as soon forget. Then I remembered the one person I turned to for objectivity... YOU! You helped me more than you'll ever know in dealing with a <I>difficult</I> personality. Thank you for that. I am praying for you right now.Mrs. Goodneedlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07453388163219666450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27429478.post-43184155838313719412009-01-06T03:06:00.000-05:002009-01-06T03:06:00.000-05:00Unfortunately, too, we always hear our own words t...Unfortunately, too, we always hear our own words the way they're intended, which isn't always the way they sound to other people. You're probably right about this other person being insecure and lonely--probably unhappy too. I find the happier I am, the nicer I am, and I'm sure it's the same for all of us.<BR/><BR/>I'm not very tolerant of difficult people, and sometimes I wonder if that's a failing of mine, or just good common sense. I'm not confrontational, but I just tend to ignore, avoid, or eliminate them from my life. Being in a position where you HAVE to deal with someone like that is hard, because it's not just the time spent WITH the person, but the affect he or she has on your thoughts and mood when they aren't even around!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05365964667029948020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27429478.post-53252554684426755752009-01-06T01:07:00.000-05:002009-01-06T01:07:00.000-05:00O wad some Power the giftie gie us To see oursels ...O wad some Power the giftie gie us <BR/>To see oursels as ithers see us! <BR/>It wad frae monie a blunder free us, <BR/>An' foolish notion: <BR/><BR/>-- Rpbert Burns, "To a Louse"<BR/><BR/>Or, for those who don't speak Scots, <BR/><BR/>O would some Power the gift to give us<BR/>To see ourselves as others see us!<BR/>It would from many a blunder free us,<BR/>And foolish notion:Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01727058505418312525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27429478.post-60275704355071760752009-01-05T17:43:00.000-05:002009-01-05T17:43:00.000-05:00It sounds kind of like a bully mentality, my way o...It sounds kind of like a bully mentality, my way or no way. Some people express their power that way when in reality they are just insecure. They are hard to deal with for sure. <BR/><BR/>Yes praying for him and for your own understanding of his manner is about all you can do.<BR/><BR/>I'm with you on the things I say too. I don't mean to be unkind ever but sometimes it is taken the wrong way and I wish I had used a better choice of words. I would like a light flashing too, preferrably before I say or do the unkind thing.Exuberantcolor/Wanda S Hansonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00064308660138307797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27429478.post-91581969746837576142009-01-05T10:26:00.000-05:002009-01-05T10:26:00.000-05:00And then there's the person who takes offense at t...And then there's the person who takes offense at the most innocent comments: <BR/>A. "Good morning." <BR/>B. "What's that supposed to mean?" <BR/>Human beans are quirky and communication is not always easy. <BR/>And then, some people are just plain mean. <BR/>Maybe an intervention with this person at church would help you, if not him.If he is causing dissension in the group he needs to be confronted. Is everyone intimidated? The minister? Even Christ didn't let people get away with crap.Guenveur in Kenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08578506650432170771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27429478.post-24089419198644506152009-01-05T09:45:00.000-05:002009-01-05T09:45:00.000-05:00Yes, the reevaluation is good and useful.My mother...Yes, the reevaluation is good and useful.<BR/><BR/>My mother used to (she doesn't talk much anymore) have a response to things ("Really?") that galled me so often, it was like she wasn't accepting what I was saying, but it was just verbal noise, I guess. But your acquaintances are being sarcastic, plain and simple. My husband won't put up with one ounce of sarcasm; he says it is always down putting and never funny. Perhaps your acquaintances have never been told that by someone they respect, or they have had to put up with it frequently in their own lives.<BR/><BR/>I know what you mean about wondering about the mental/emotional condition of a person in one's life. There is a woman at church who I wasn't warm to after several things happened. She is in her mid 50's. Now we all realize that she has lost some of her marbles. She can't work nor stay alone. Really sad. I'm with her alot and I'm working on being kind and helpful.LoieJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01977264499770654307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27429478.post-1603153251168715942009-01-05T03:10:00.000-05:002009-01-05T03:10:00.000-05:00Sadly it seems there are people in most organisati...Sadly it seems there are people in most organisations be it paid or voluntary who have that need to be the expert and seem unable to see anything from an alternate angle - I'm afraid they often bring out the very worst in me as I struggle with tolerance in that situation. Hard to be charitable when someone is so unreceptive but the one good thing is it does make you re-evaluate your own words and how they affect othersAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352283065863856112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27429478.post-76675416301188089852009-01-04T22:17:00.000-05:002009-01-04T22:17:00.000-05:00What a thoughtful post. I recently passed by a mag...What a thoughtful post. I recently passed by a magazine article on Hoarding. The recap quotes showed me it went into pathological hoarding, not stash building! I didn't want to explore the dark side... And I agree with you, I find a large number of difficult people; those that are arrogant, controlling or seem self absorbed when inter-acting with the world are really unhappy with themselves and insecure. When I think of them that way, it helps me have patience or compassion.Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07369925218442518383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27429478.post-38799542240656614072009-01-04T19:54:00.000-05:002009-01-04T19:54:00.000-05:00What is truly inside our heart is relected in what...What is truly inside our heart is relected in what comes out of it...thanks for posting this...we all may be needing to be reminded of this thought.<BR/><BR/>MarleneAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11896061515444647254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27429478.post-64970015604170055722009-01-04T19:47:00.000-05:002009-01-04T19:47:00.000-05:00Thanks for writing this, it is a good reminder to ...Thanks for writing this, it is a good reminder to me to always use kindness in my words.<BR/><BR/>KarenKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01634431465251641679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27429478.post-31116728723119666162009-01-04T19:11:00.000-05:002009-01-04T19:11:00.000-05:00Yes Nancy as Christians we are called upon to pray...Yes Nancy as Christians we are called upon to pray for those that are difficult to deal with! Personally I pray, but at the same time I try NOT to put myself in the position of needing to deal with the person, yep tough I know! <BR/><BR/>I too take the position of striving to be more positive and to reflect what God would have us do! WWJD!<BR/><BR/>You can do it Nancy, I know you can, and I will pray for your situation!Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07033748957386956585noreply@blogger.com